Matthew Ramsey, LMFT
License Number LMFT93434
We don’t typically seek out a therapist because our lives are overflowing with joy, yet it’s during these times of crisis or unrest that we are most open to growth. I recall the words of Dr. Gordon Wolf, a skilled psychotherapist and researcher who shared, “We are all the same, but different.” Regardless of our position or status, navigating through life carries with it many challenges that are universally shared including: loneliness, loss, death, rejection, conflict, and failure to name a few. But more significant than being collectively experienced are that these psychological pains can compel us towards a deeper understanding of the human condition and our place in the world. I have met many people who are stuck; having defined themselves by the terrible things they have witnessed, experienced, or done. If nothing else I write resonates, please hear me: there is a depth to your worth that exceeds anything that’s happened to you or that you’ve done, and it’s this place that I wish to help you discover and cultivate.
My wife and I have called Shasta County our home since 2004. We have found it to be a remarkable place to raise our three children. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, having earned my B.A. in Psychology at Simpson University and an M.A. in Counseling Psychology through National University. My professional journey has led me to work primarily with adults across the lifespan. Specifically, I have over 12 years combined experience in working with older adults and their families as both advocate and therapist. For nearly half a decade, I’ve provided therapy to people struggling with the most human of experiences, otherwise known as mental illness, and have also collaborated with adolescents struggling with significant emotional and behavioral challenges.
I believe that we have an innate longing for relatedness. Many of us want to restore and enhance our intimate relationships yet the way we manage our emotional vulnerability creates conflict and distance. In an effort to avoid or suppress the pain of our losses or traumas a significant number of us have inadvertently compounded our suffering by adopting new vices. Misattributing our wants for needs we have chased after things which have left us empty and unfulfilled. Sabotaging our deeper calling by engaging in self-limiting, risk-avoidant behaviors, we have become paralyzed from the ambivalence that exists between complacency and aspiration. To those who can identify with any of these sentiments, I wish to express that HOPE is alive! It has brought you to this pivotal moment, and should I be given the honor of co-discovering with you in therapy, hope will awaken the curiosity needed to expand self awareness, see you through your painful circumstances, and provide the motivational energy necessary to be in healthier relationship with yourself and others.
My approach to therapy carries a person-centered style that is typically expressed through narrative, cognitive-behavioral, and attachment-based theories. However, my deepest conviction is that the approach used needs to ultimately conform to your needs. Research has left little doubt when it comes to the mind-body connection, but for the sake of analogy, physical exercise is to the body what talk-therapy is for the soul. It can be difficult and quite painful, especially at the beginning, but staying the course with a skilled therapist can yield new insights and patterns of living that are in line with your deeper needs and ambitions. I would be honored to support you in this transformative process!